Scam definition paradox


Here is one more paradox of this situation. It feels as if somebody invented a game with rules determined by only one side, men. Ok, I don’t argue that the notion “scams” took flight as a pattern of conduct of certain people exactly on dating sites. In most cases complaints are made by men who say that women are scammers. However does it mean that all women are scammers? The most dating websites are a place where both real men and women registrate. Women who want to love and be loved, trust men and finally to find their second halves. And where are complaints shared by women? Do you think that there are no men scammers?

Here is one more guy who describes the main points of his Uadreams complaint


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“Her profile was then closed on the internet site we had met and I received an invite from her from UA Dreams web site… I decided to continue to correspond with her paying for each letter I wrote to her… when I went to UA Dreams to find Julia there she was with a profile all made out with professional photos and a bio that must have taken some time to create….well in advance of our correspondence on the other dating site. So, in short, I was baited after establishing a connection with Julia. I was given opportunity to correspond with her on UA Dreams and after the free emails, it became expensive to correspond with her as well as meet with her on video chat sessions. This is called bait and snatch routine. UA Dreams establishes a fake profile of a lady on another web site”

I am surprised that this man came to a decision to cross over to another dating agency by himself and started to pay for his dating, but after that he started to insist that this is scams. I wonder at what point do such conclusions come over? After the registration on the site, after the first payment or after a thought about how much money one needs to find a second half… As soon as this meridian question arises, a plenty of new emanating thoughts come – no, it is expensive, it is fraud, yes, they are liars because I have to buy my relationship! This being so, why to register on a dating website, pay and chat. In order to accuse the girl of scams groundlessly? Or to accuse of scams the whole agency?

For example I can’t get next to an idea why this man insists that the girl’s profile is fake. If I am not mistaken, the word “fake” is used when somebody isn’t a person he or she claims to be. Well, this guy said that it was the same girl on the both sites and he talked in chat with her. So, “fake” means from now on not a nonexistent person, but a “comfortless” site where you meet girls? And if she would leave for another city, would it be fake, scam or fraud as well?